In this transformative collaboration, Eve Rickert and Andrea Zanin bring together decades-deep lived experience, research on attachment and relationship diversity, and a justice-inflected approach to love, ethics and boundaries. You’ll find practical tools for communicating when jealousy or fear shows up, frameworks for crafting agreements that evolve, and a relational lens on power, consent, autonomy and integrity. Whether you’re solo, coupled, nested or embedded in an anarchic web of connections, this book meets you where you are. It’s also thoroughly inclusive of queer, kinky, ace, trans and nonbinary readers, and it addresses aspects of nonmonogamy that stretch well beyond romantic or sexual relationships.

Drawing on the best of the original while reimagining it for a changed world, The New More Than Two is a guide for anyone seeking love that is both brave and kind.

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In this groundbreaking work, Lau dismantles the mechanics of kink to uncover its deeper truths: trust, reciprocity, vulnerability and the raw intelligence of the body. Moving beyond manuals, she explores what happens when people enter the unpredictable space of power and surrender, and how that space can support greater attunement, eroticism and transformation.

Aimed at people with some experience of kink and looking for the language to discuss the subtler aspects of BDSM, this thoughtful resource blends theory, practice and cultural critique to articulate a new ethic of erotic power. In Lau’s vision, domination is not control for its own sake but a form of radical attention—one that restores connection between mind and body, self and other, suffering and joy.

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In Nonmonogamy and Queer Inclusivity, Mx. Nillin Lore, author of the award-winning How Do I Sexy? A Guide for Trans and Nonbinary Queers, encourages cisgender and heterosexual nonmonogamous folks to consider their own preconceptions and provides them with practical advice on how to do better. By intentionally organizing more inclusive events, fostering respectful spaces and actively supporting marginalized community members, nonmonogamous folks of all genders and sexualities can create stronger, more diverse and safer nonmonogamous communities.

Lore draws on their personal experience and observation as an educator, event planner and outreach worker to provide an introduction to queer identity, challenge some of the myths and misconceptions about gender diversity, and offer guidance on how to make nonmonogamous social gatherings a little less scary for all.

More Than Two Essentials is a series of books by Canadian authors on focused topics in nonmonogamy. It is curated by Eve Rickert, author of More Than Two, Second Edition. Learn more and find all forthcoming titles at morethantwo.ca.

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Drawing from his own experiences and interviews with other Asian men and nonbinary people, Cho explores how culture, sexuality and race combine to influence identity. Along the way, he meets people redefining what masculinity means to them and discusses what we can do to steward a version of masculinity that is inclusive, progressive and authentic.

Candid, challenging and personal, Brotherhood is a Constant Possibility invites readers to question the roles Asian men have been “allowed” to play and to imagine broader and more nuanced ways of thinking about masculinity and men.

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Nonmonogamy and Group Dynamics explores how to navigate issues in polycules and other romantic groups and how to come to a compassionate understanding of others and ourselves. A practical handbook founded in real-life experiences, it addresses shifts in group structure, comparisons among members and differences in prioritization, and offers communication strategies and tips for resolving tension. By encouraging the reader to consider their roles and responsibilities and to reflect on their own expectations, this helpful guide empowers the reader to work toward what they want and need from their romantic groups.

More Than Two Essentials is a series of books by Canadian authors on focused topics in nonmonogamy. It is curated by Eve Rickert, author of More Than Two, Second Edition. Learn more and find all forthcoming titles at morethantwo.ca.

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But the artist made contact with her after the birth of her first child and became a family friend, bringing gifts of paintings. Those images hung in Theresa’s home, and one in particular reminded her almost daily of her younger self, in ways both positive and not so much. She avoided looking too closely at his images of her and at his long, passionate and often troubling letters.

Decades later, while sorting old correspondence, she was taken back to those early days and began, at last, to write about her relationship with the now-deceased artist. The Art of Looking Back is a meditation on the male gaze, on reclaiming one’s younger self, and on agency: how we lose it, how we find it again. This poetic memoir asks questions about older men and younger women and girls, and the persistence of that dynamic in art.

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In a society that promotes the narrative of self-loathing queers, loving and accepting ourselves can be hard to imagine, let alone achieve. Author and activist Mx. Nillin Lore has first-hand insight into the complex inner journey of decluttering the guilt, shame and anxiety that can feed our inner discriminator, and in Carry On, they provide a guided expedition through the source material of our own erasure. 

A self-reflective journey and a toolset for dismantling inflammatory inner frameworks, this is a practical and encouraging guide for those ready and willing to unpack their internalized queerphobic and transphobic baggage.

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Even the most casual of connections requires trust, and where there is trust, there is the potential for betrayal. As long as there have been love stories, there has been love lost through deception, abandonment, or callous disregard of intimate bonds. Intimacy, exclusive or otherwise, can be exploratory or confined, collaborative or autonomous, but one thing it can never be is risk free.

Yes, there is cheating in nonmonogamous relationships. There are other forms of betrayal, too: the cliquish injustices of in-group bullying, the violation of having personal information shared by a trusted partner, the humiliation of seeing someone who claimed to love you “trade up” for a partner with more social, sexual or plain old economic capital. Trust can be broken, and in turn break people, in a great number of ways.

In Nonmonogamy and Betrayal, Eve Rickert, co-author of More Than Two, Second Edition: Cultivating Nonmonogamous Relationships with Kindness and Integrity, explores a regrettable inclination among many who practise nonmonogamy: to downplay or minimize the destructive capacity of broken trust, both to the betrayed partner and to the larger community. Nonmonogamy and Betrayal not only unravels the varieties of betrayal that can occur in nonmonogamy, but explores pathways to recognition and healing.

More Than Two Essentials is a series of books by Canadian authors on focused topics in nonmonogamy. It is curated by Eve Rickert, author of More Than Two, Second Edition. Learn more and find all forthcoming titles at morethantwo.ca.

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The Inner Critic, Shame and the Escaper are players in an internalized drama triangle, acting as perpetrator, victim and rescuer. Together, they create the Shame Triangle, which can trap us in ineffective survival strategies that prevent us from embracing and expressing our true selves. 

Through practical exercises and accessible explanations, readers are guided to shift from a state of self-critique to one of self-support—transforming the Shame Triangle to a love triangle. Using parts work, Fern and Cooley open a path to healing and transformation, building a foundation of authenticity and integrity in self and connections, and ultimately creating a more fulfilling life.

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In what is both a call to action and a candid memoir, Stryker is open about what she has learned and her perceived limitations. Recognizing that it can feel overwhelming to know how to effectively make change, she encourages readers to consider how they can best advocate for causes they believe in, presenting different types of activism and urging readers to honestly examine their own hesitations.

She also emphasizes that without taking care of our interpersonal relationships, many people burn out of activism at the very time when we need more people on the ground, and she offers practical strategies to avoid this and to encourage healthy relationships.

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By examining prevalent cultural norms and values, and presenting real-life examples of mononormativity’s impact, Marla Schreiber encourages readers to consider their own preconceptions and guides them towards effectively defying mononormativity and other intersecting paradigms.

More Than Two Essentials is a series of books by Canadian authors on focused topics in nonmonogamy. It is curated by Eve Rickert, author of More Than Two, Second Edition. Learn more and find all forthcoming titles at morethantwo.ca.

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Nonmonogamy has allowed Shah—a Pakistani woman who immigrated to Canada and a sex worker in a nonmonogamous relationship—to push the boundaries of what sexual intimacy means to relationships. Being in a committed, nonmonogamous relationship helped her appreciate nuance in sexuality, love and human behaviour. Through redefining sex and love, she was able to discover a level of confidence that has enabled her to be successful in the sex industry and to not be ashamed of the nature of the work, despite enduring social stigma.

Through the lens of this experience, Shah discusses economics and sex work, intimacy and sex work, nonmonogamy and religious and social conflict, social rejection and nonmonogamy, the intersection between nonmonogamous and sex work communities, nonmonogamy and sexual health, and the impact of sex work on mental health.

More Than Two Essentials is a series of books by Canadian authors on focused topics in nonmonogamy. It is curated by Eve Rickert, author of More Than Two, Second Edition. Learn more and find all forthcoming titles at morethantwo.ca.

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The answer is obvious, and misleading. The love one feels in their heart and the love one expresses through daily acts of care and affection are both “love” in the true sense, but they have different requirements, present different options and produce different outcomes.

More Than Two, Second Edition, can’t promise outcomes, but it is a guide to the paths—from anchor or nesting partnerships to relationship anarchy—possible within nonmonogamy. Drawing on the best of its predecessor while completely reimagining its approach, this entirely new work bridges emerging theories on attachment and relationship diversity with authors Eve Rickert and Andrea Zanin’s insight and experience. The arcs of nonmonogamous partnerships bend towards complexity, introspection and compromise—or at least they can, if we work at it.

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You’re invited to do some deep introspection, find a look that feels right and gain insight on sexiness from fellow trans and nonbinary queers. You’ll also find valuable tips on navigating dating sites, finding community, managing rejection with grace and engaging in sexual relationships. Principled and compassionate, Mx. Lore will help you figure out who you want to be, who you want to be with and how to make it happen—both in the streets and between the sheets.

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What’s it like on the other side of nonmonogamy? How did you get there? How does your life reflect what you learned along the way? Is nonmonogamy an identity or a practice? And do you think you might ever jump back in? Post-Nonmonogamy and Beyond invites you to explore these questions in a spirit of self-reflection, self-compassion and curiosity.​

More Than Two Essentials is a series of books by Canadian authors on focused topics in nonmonogamy. It is curated by Eve Rickert, author of More Than Two, Second Edition. Learn more and find all forthcoming titles at morethantwo.ca.

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This timely and practical workbook allows the reader to work at their own pace and in their own way, with concrete examples from Kitty’s youth, prompts inspired by questions teens have asked her and comprehensive resources to encourage exploration and introspection.

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As nonmonogamous people, how can we plan ahead for our own and our loved ones’ deaths? How can we best navigate a funeral industry that may not understand our relationships, a legal system that’s not set up to recognize our commitments, and a social world that can be unfriendly to grieving partners outside the monogamous model? How do we take care of ourselves and each other in times of grief and loss?

In Nonmonogamy and Death, Kayden Abley leads us through these difficult and tender questions with compassion and care, providing guidance to help you find your own answers.

More Than Two Essentials is a series of books by Canadian authors on focused topics in nonmonogamy. It is curated by Eve Rickert, author of More Than Two, Second Edition. Learn more and find all forthcoming titles at morethantwo.ca.

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In “real” love, we are taught to expect the opposite: to expect happiness. When we want to ask if someone’s relationship is going well, we ask if they are “happy with” their partner. We might even ask whether their partner makes them happy. But what does love have to do with happiness? Doesn’t love have space to accommodate the full range of emotional experience?

Carrie Jenkins thinks it does, or at least it can. She draws connections between the expectation that love will make us happy and the undue focus on positive emotions to the exclusion of “negative” ones. She argues that love—monogamous or otherwise—might better aim at being eudaimonic than at being happy, and that we have a better chance of achieving this if we are able to make relationship choices free from the prejudices and distortions that lead to an unduly rosy view of monogamy and an unduly miserable picture of the alternatives.

More Than Two Essentials is a series of books by Canadian authors on focused topics in nonmonogamy. It is curated by Eve Rickert, author of More Than Two, Second Edition. Learn more and find all forthcoming titles at morethantwo.ca.

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Relationship coach Evita “Lavitaloca” Sawyers streamlines the vast abstractions of “working on yourself” into a guided tour of rigorous self-reflection. Building upon her wealth of experience in fostering the journey from monogamy to nonmonogamy, Sawyers invites you to ask yourself the big questions. Can compersion and jealousy coexist? How do we hold space for hurt we didn’t cause? What if I don’t like my metamour?

Through 365 daily prompts, you are encouraged to develop the tools of emotional diligence that will serve you for a lifetime. For those eager to love authentically but overwhelmed by the emotional process of polyamory, this is your reminder that you don’t have to do it alone.

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Polyamorous therapist Jessica Fern and restorative justice facilitator David Cooley share the insights they have gained through thousands of hours working with clients in consensually nonmonogamous relationships. Using a grounded theory approach, they explore the underlying challenges that nonmonogamous individuals and partners can experience after their first steps, offering practical strategies for transforming them into opportunities for new levels of clarity and intimacy.

Polywise provides both the conceptual framework to better understand the shift from monogamy to nonmonogamy and the tools to navigate the next steps, allowing you to not just survive in open relationships, but thrive in them.

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Informed by her firsthand experience as a nonmonogamous educator, Ashley Speed examines the typical objections raised about nonmonogamous people teaching children, how to refute them and how to navigate some of the difficulties of being a nonmonogamous teacher in today’s stormy political waters. It also offers practical advice for administrators and parents who want to support nonmonogamous teachers, and tips for teachers on how to make their classrooms friendly for kids from nonmonogamous families.

More Than Two Essentials is a series of books by Canadian authors on focused topics in nonmonogamy. It is curated by Eve Rickert, author of More Than Two, Second Edition. Learn more and find all forthcoming titles at morethantwo.ca.

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In Ask: Building Consent Culture, consent culture activist Kitty Stryker compiled a diverse collection of essays from people working on questions of how to build a culture of consent in our everyday world. This timely and practical companion workbook uses 28 daily prompts to explore consent. Split into four sections on distinct themes, it allows you to work at your own pace and in your own way, with the insights of consent culture activists to help inspire reflection along the way.

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JoEllen Notte challenges the preconceived notions that keep us from showing up for each other in a meaningful way and offers strategies for supporting each other and ourselves when depression comes calling. Challenging the notions that tell us “that’s not my business” or “they probably don’t want to talk about that,” In It Together equips readers to navigate depression alongside the people they care about.

Informed by interviews with over 200 people coping with depression and featuring practical tips and real-life examples, In it Together is an insightful and much-needed guidebook for people with depression and those who love them.

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Nonmonogamy and Neurodiversity is for neurodivergent people considering or practicing nonmonogamy. Its goal is to help neurodivergent people understand how well-suited they are to the polyamorous life, and to help them recognize and manage the challenges that being neurodivergent can bring to nonmonogamy. It is also for the partners and potential partners of neurodivergent people, to encourage them to understand different perspectives and to help them be understanding, accommodating and well-informed. Nomonogamous relationships do not belong exclusively to the neurotypicals, but to us all.

More Than Two Essentials is a series of books by Canadian authors on focused topics in nonmonogamy. It is curated by Eve Rickert, author of the books More Than Two, Second Edition. Learn more and find all forthcoming titles at morethantwo.ca.

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Through practical exercises, you will explore your own attachment history, examine your reasons for practicing nonmonogamy and the different styles of nonmonogamy that you relate to, and consider how you rely on relationship structure for your attachment security. It provides the tools needed to navigate the complexities of multiple loving relationships and to build personal security.

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Outpatient rehabilitation is a multi-billion dollar business in the United States, and tens of thousands of active support groups exist to help people recover from addictions. With such resources available, why is sustaining a marriage post-sobriety such a riddle?

As Christopher Dale discovered, the “cure” can be as stressful as addiction. Recovery is a life-long process that brings permanent changes to both those battling substance abuse and their long-term partners. Accepting the loss of the marriage they had before his sobriety allowed Christopher and his wife to recommit to a new form of relationship—one based on an honest outlook of recovery.

That journey is documented, in all its trials, traumas and successes, so that other couples who find their connection buckling under the weight of addiction—and recovery—have a path and process to becoming Better Halves.

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Pegging: A sex act in which the pegger anally penetrates the peggee with a strap-on dildo.

Cooper S. Beckett and Lyndzi Miller tackle all you’ve ever wanted to know about pegging. How do we do it? What are the right tools for the job? Does it actually feel good? I’m a straight guy⁠—will pegging make me gay? They answer these questions and also talk about safety, male anatomy and the health benefits of being pegged.

Beckett and Miller guide you through your experimentation with this most excellent act in a friendly and conversational fashion, showing you an in-depth look between the cheeks.

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Polyamorous therapist Jessica Fern breaks new ground by extending attachment theory into the realm of consensual nonmonogamy. Using her nested model of attachment and trauma, she expands our understanding of how emotional experiences can influence our relationships. Then, she sets out six specific strategies to help you move toward secure attachments in your multiple relationships.

Polysecure is both a trailblazing theoretical treatise and a practical guide. It provides nonmonogamous people with a new set of tools to navigate the complexities of multiple loving relationships, and offers radical new concepts that are sure to influence the conversation about attachment theory.

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From “you have to love yourself first,” to “don’t stick it in the crazy,” to dead silence, popular responses to the topic leave much to be desired. But you’re not alone and you can have successful relationships and satisfying sex with depression.

This exploration of how to navigate sex and relationships while coping with depression includes practical tips and real-life examples. Informed by surveys and interviews with over 1,000 people, JoEllen Notte will help you understand how sexual function is affected by depression and what keeps us from effectively addressing it.

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But the red umbrella is wide and covers many: escorts, sugar babies, strippers, session wrestlers, cam performers, fetish models, DIY queer porn stars, and the full range of gender, race and ability. Our work and our identities are as vast and variable as the spectrum of sexuality itself.

We do the work. In the streets, in the clubs, in hotel rooms and in play party dungeons. We make dreams come true so we can afford a place to sleep. We do business in a marketplace that politicians and police are constantly burning down for our “own safety and dignity.” We have high heels and higher anxiety.

This isn’t a collection of sob stories of heartbroken whores. This is a testament of life at ground zero of sexual discourse, the songs of canaries in the coal mines of sex, gender, class, race and disability. We may dance on the table, but we still demand our seat at it.

Sex workers of the world unite. This is A Whore’s Manifesto.

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Kathy Labriola uses real life examples and expert insight as a counselor and nurse. From how to handle jealousy to the practicalities of managing money and time with multiple partners, this book includes tips and insights from the polyamory community.

It is inevitable that some relationships will end in a breakup. This book helps you maintain friendships and minimize the impact of a breakup on the rest of your polycule and wider community. Unlike traditional breakup guides, Labriola’s book offers insight specific to the polyamory community and addresses the unique challenges that come with multiple partners.

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Claiming the B in LGBT strives to give bisexuals a seat at the table. This guidebook to the history and future of the bisexual movement fuses a chronology of bisexual organizing with essays, poems and articles detailing the lived experiences of bisexual activities struggling against a dominant culture driven by norms of monosexual attraction, compulsory monogamy, and inflexible notions of gender expression and identity.

Kate Harrad’s anthology of a thriving identity yearning to realize itself provides a vision of bisexuality that is beyond gay and straight, rather than left to merely occupy the space between.

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When these behaviors are unacknowledged and unchecked, polyamory isn’t a more inclusive or compassionate relationship style. Agreeing to “not be racist” or, worse, trying “not to see race” only makes it worse. To make polyamorous communities inclusive, we must all take ownership, acknowledge our part in perpetuating racism, and listen to people of color. These conversations can be difficult and (if we’re being honest) self-incriminating. But they are necessary for us to build a better alternative.

Love’s Not Color Blind puts forward the framework—through research, anecdotal testimony, and analogy—for understanding, identifying, and ultimately confronting the manifestations of racism within polyamorous communities. Whether you’re a community leader or you just like to date a lot, this is an invaluable tool for creating a more inclusive polyamory.

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To resist rape culture, we need a consent culture—and one that is more than just reactionary. Left confined to intimate spaces, consent will atrophy as theory that is never put into practice. The multi-layered power disparities of today’s world require a response sensitive to a wide range of lived experiences.

In Ask, Kitty Stryker assembles a retinue of writers, journalists, and activists to examine how a cultural politic centered on consent can empower us outside the bedroom, whether it’s at the doctor’s office, interacting with law enforcement, or calling out financial abuse within radical communities.

More than a collection of essays, Ask is a testimony and guide on the role that negated consent plays in our lives, examining how we can take those first steps to reclaim it from institutionalized power.

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But it’s a lot harder than it looks, and living openly will test you. Are you able to navigate discussions of jealousy with responsibility and care? Can you reject self-sabotaging patterns of selfishness and deceit? Will you employ your strength and confidence to meet the emotional needs of multiple connections?

If you’re looking to rise to the occasion, then this is the book for you! Within, you’ll learn the skills and tools you’ll need to navigate conscientious nonmonogamy and find your way to your fantasies.

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In this guide, Tamara Pincus and Rebecca Hiles provide a roadmap for explaining the expansive intricacies of the consensual nonmonogamy spectrum. By fusing personal experience and community research, they break down the various incarnations of polyamorous relationship structures, polyamory’s intersections with race and gender, and the seemingly esoteric jargon of the lifestyle.

Topics include everything from how to explain what a “unicorn hunter” is to answering questions like, “Can poly people raise children?” and “Can they live normal, healthy lives?” Such conversations are eloquently explained and the real dangers of being out as poly in a monogamy-centered society are laid bare.

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Kimchi Cuddles is a rare mix: fearlessly true to the lives of the people it depicts yet relatable enough to entertain and inform anyone (maybe even your parents). Dealing with both lighthearted and serious subject matter, it avoids clichés and easy answers, choosing instead to give examples of different schools of thought and show the humanity behind each one. Wolf’s honesty and gift for clear explanation have made Kimchi Cuddles a hit with the most dedicated polyamorists as well as curious newcomers.

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