Love’s Not Color Blind centers Patterson’s voice. He makes it clear that this book is not a beginner’s guide to polyamory: it’s a lecture for beginners about what polyamory looks like for underrepresented polyamorists. The stories, anecdotes, and observations that Patterson presents are not sugarcoated. His reasoning is easy to follow, and although he doesn’t spoon-feed his opinions to the audience, they are presented clearly and with compassion. Although there’s no clear step-by-step guide for dismantling systemic racism, the book’s chapters break down simple lessons in how to improve group and individual dynamics, how white people can recognize their part in perpetuating racism, and how to date ethically instead of just “collecting” partners.

Love’s Not Color Blind belongs on the shelf next to The Ethical Slut. For both people of color and their allies, this is a powerful offering that dismantles myths about polyamory and builds a bridge to better understanding.”—Foreword Reviews

Filled with rich reminiscences from earlier years and critical questions posed as an older woman, Theresa Kishkan’s poetic and vibrant writing grapples with youth’s evolving self-image, the reactions and decisions creating life’s trail, and the questions and insight that age can bestow.”—Christina Johnson-Dean, writer, teacher, and art historian