Exploring nonmonogamy can require us to shift our worldview and deconstruct what we’ve been taught about relationship dynamics. However, it is difficult to defy paradigms while also existing within them—even as we strive to unlearn established norms, we can find ourselves unintentionally reproducing the principles of paradigms like mononormativity in our nonmonogamous relationships. In a society where monogamy is established as normal and reinforced through legal systems and cultural etiquette, this is not surprising.
By examining prevalent cultural norms and values, and presenting real-life examples of mononormativity’s impact, Marla Schreiber encourages readers to consider their own preconceptions and guides them towards effectively defying mononormativity and other intersecting paradigms.
More Than Two Essentials is a series of books by Canadian authors on focused topics in nonmonogamy. It is curated by Eve Rickert, author of More Than Two, Second Edition. Learn more and find all forthcoming titles at morethantwo.ca.
“This book is incredible! Marla’s tone is down-to-earth and playful, and they write with such compassion and clarity. They take complex topics and make them digestible and easy to understand. I would highly recommend this book to anyone looking to divest from the monogamy paradigm.”—Heidi Savell, polyamory coach and therapist
“What I love about Nonmonogamy and Defying a Paradigm is that it gives people completely new to nonmonogamy the chance to not only get to know some of the context of nonmonogamy but does so with the compassion and understanding I wish I could have found earlier in my journey. Maybe if I had something like this book when I was starting out, I could have avoided so many of the pitfalls I fell into.”—Lola Phoenix, author of The Anxious Person’s Guide to Non-Monogamy
“A valuable companion for anyone beginning or deepening their journey into nonmonogamy. Nonmonogamy and Defying a Paradigm is for anyone seeking to build nonmonogamous relationships rooted in self-awareness, compassion, and growth, and also for wellbeing professionals wanting to better understand and support nonmonogamous clients.”—Ali Hendry, holistic life coach and DIVA magazine columnist
“A cheerful, engaging invitation to examine the mental hangover of mononormativity and how it can keep affecting our relationships long after we thought we’d moved past it. Light and accessible, this is a solid hors d’oeuvre for the relationship feast to come. Dig in, understand the old, and create something new and better with the ones you love.”—Alyssa Gonzalez, author of Nonmonogamy and Neurodiversity
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