Nonmonogamy and Defying a Paradigm

Reviews

• In Nonmonogamy and Defying a Paradigm, Marla brings wit and clarity to subjects that are often fraught for folks who are beginning to explore nonmonogamous relating. From the difference between how the media talks about polyamory versus how many live it, to the way our longstanding social programming affects all our relationships—romantic and not—this book has something for everyone curious about or practicing nonmonogamy.—Laura Boyle, author of Monogamy? In this Economy?

• “This is the book that dares to say: being the ‘original couple’ doesn’t make you enlightened—it just means you have power that’s uncomfortable to be aware of. Marla tackles couple’s privilege with the honesty of someone who’s been the insider and the outsider. And when it comes to the heartbreaky bits—fear, loss, comparison—they don’t offer platitudes. They offer practice. This book isn’t a how-to. It’s a ‘welcome to the human condition, here’s a flashlight, babe.’”—Rahim Thawer, MSW, RSW, CCS, author of The Mental Health Guide for Cis and Trans Queer Guys

• “This book is incredible! Marla’s tone is down-to-earth and playful, and they write with such compassion and clarity. They take complex topics and make them digestible and easy to understand. I would highly recommend this book to anyone looking to divest from the monogamy paradigm.”—Heidi Savell, polyamory coach and therapist

• “What I love about Nonmonogamy and Defying a Paradigm is that it gives people completely new to nonmonogamy the chance to not only get to know some of the context of nonmonogamy but does so with the compassion and understanding I wish I could have found earlier in my journey. Maybe if I had something like this book when I was starting out, I could have avoided so many of the pitfalls I fell into.”—Lola Phoenix, author of The Anxious Person’s Guide to Non-Monogamy

• “A valuable companion for anyone beginning or deepening their journey into nonmonogamy. Nonmonogamy and Defying a Paradigm is for anyone seeking to build nonmonogamous relationships rooted in self-awareness, compassion, and growth, and also for wellbeing professionals wanting to better understand and support nonmonogamous clients.”—Ali Hendry, holistic life coach and DIVA magazine columnist

• “A cheerful, engaging invitation to examine the mental hangover of mononormativity and how it can keep affecting our relationships long after we thought we’d moved past it. Light and accessible, this is a solid hors d’oeuvre for the relationship feast to come. Dig in, understand the old, and create something new and better with the ones you love.”—Alyssa Gonzalez, author of Nonmonogamy and Neurodiversity